Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Condolences and Prayers

Rick's family in 2003
After I finished posting yesterday, I got a call from my Aunt Viv. My cousin Ricky had a massive stroke.

Now Ricky and I go way back to the cradle almost. He's the same age as my little sister, Janet. Every time we were in country we always stopped at Uncle Ferdy's house before visiting my grandmother.

When we arrived in the States after the fiasco in Ceylon in 1971, that family was the first to welcome us home. We were shell shocked and exhausted both mentally and physically. I remember well how Uncle Ferdy's boys drew us out into some sort of normalcy instead of constantly looking over our shoulders for people trying to kill us. Yes, a lot of Escape from Second Eden is factual and really happened.

Between playing hoops, which now I'm not sure I won all those games against the boys fair and square, and exploring excavation sites, they drew us out and started the healing process. I'll be forever grateful to all of them for that. I lost my lucky elephant hair ring on one of those excursions. Ricky promised to keep looking for it even after we left. He never found it.

I was planning to go down to Jacksonville and play cheerleader for him this weekend. The first road trip for me alone since my stroke. Each day I am thankful to be alive and still able to hug my children and grandchildren since my stroke. I'm constantly reminded of those who are not able to do that. One third of the  million plus a year who suffer strokes are not here anymore. I am, for all my griping and complaining, one of the lucky ones. I am a survivor who can relearn what I lost.

I went to the family website, since we are all stretch across this country and a few others, and read where he had died just after midnight. My heart is heavy for his wife, three daughters, and grandchildren today.

Please send a prayer of comfort for the family he left behind.

16 comments:

Rebecca Dutton said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news.

J.L. Murphey said...

Rebecca, thank you. It's just a reminder of how lucky we are even though it doesn't seem like it.

Lara Lacombe said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm so sorry! Prayers for you and his family.

Dana said...

I'm so sorry. Many prayers for all of you.

Deniz Bevan said...

{{hugs}} to you and your family, Jo

Michelle Miller said...

I'm so sorry for the loss of your cousin, Jo. I'm sending positive thoughts and hugs your way. <3

Jeremy [Retro-Z] said...

sending out a silent prayer to you and your family... sorry to hear this...

J.L. Murphey said...

Thanks all. Death is a certainty but we never know when it will happen.

killerofhope said...

My dad was a really great guy. It nice to hear a child hood story about him.

J.L. Murphey said...

Which daughter are you killerofhope?

Audrey101 said...

Audrey Mefford im the 4th oldest out of the 6 of us.

Audrey101 said...

The one in the Purple shirt. I havent seen that pic in a long time Airs had of been about 6 ( the one in the Blue dress) and LeYanna about 10 ( the one in front of my mom ) and (in Red) Amanda and( in pink) Melissa the only one thats missing in there is Nitasha .

J.L. Murphey said...

Audery,

It's the only one I had of your (almost) whole family.

Audrey101 said...

^-^ its al right it was hard to get all of us together at once . I hope we can met one day .

J.L. Murphey said...

Audrey,
Met your Mom and sisters at Thanksgiving.